Hater
Is it possible to actually hate an event? I mean, I know you can hate a person, hate an object, hate an activity, but an event? Your own event?
I believe I currently hate my wedding. No, I don't hate anything specific, I like my venue, cake, flowers, catering, and so on. But I am hating all these little stupid things to think about and answer and decide and book and buy.
Ahhhh that felt good.
I believe I currently hate my wedding. No, I don't hate anything specific, I like my venue, cake, flowers, catering, and so on. But I am hating all these little stupid things to think about and answer and decide and book and buy.
Ahhhh that felt good.
posted by First Year at 11:36 AM
8 Comments:
I saw your quote in the Washington Post and I couldn't help myself but go to your blog. I AM SO WITH YOU! My fiance and I are getting married in December so, consequently, he decided to take a project at work that has him traveling 5 days a week for 6 months. This leaves me 5 days a week to obsess about the most ridiculous, awful, horrible, over-priced, over indulgent wedding crap. Then, when I'd like to enjoy time with my fiance and not think about "The Wedding," I get to spend weekends with him throwing temper tantrums b/c he needs to go "try on rings," "pick out tuxes," "get groomsmen gifts," etc etc... as if I want to spend my weekends doing this horrible crap; he needs to accent it by being a huge donkey! So yes, it is definitely possible to hate an event. I too hate my wedding and, for the record, I wanted to elope (he didn't). Good Luck!!!!
~Jenny The Cranky, Non-Bridezilla, Just Get It Done... Couldn't We Just Elope, Bride~
By the end - I was ready to walk away and just getting married at chappel de'elvis. I didn't even have a big wedding.
If you think you are stressed now.. just wait.
Something always goes wrong right before. For us it was a hurricane. The day we flew home a plane had crashed in NY and this woman in our row was shaking and crying. It wasn't fucking helpful at all since I"m a white knuckle flyer.
Once the day comes though.. it will be magical. You'll be alright.
The process is meant to wear you down so you don't care how much money you are spending.
I still haven't gotten an invitation or even a "Save the Date" postcard.
Stumbled on your blog, cause I'm randomly surfing while supposed to be doing work.... going through the archives - it's like reading a novel.... sadly, I can't wait to see "what happens next".
I'm up to a part where you were feeling a bit indifferent to BF, but on the front page of your blog (ie, most recent posts) now I see you are getting married. I don't know who you are marrying.... I'll keep reading.
I will get a life at some other stage.
Kylee in Australia...
:)
I have no experience in this area, but planning that much stuff does seem incredibly stressful. I've had a few nice normal girlfriends turn into the dreaded b-zilla for the months before their wedding. I don't think you're alone.
Wait, you were quoted in the Washington Post?!?! That's awesome!
I also stumbled upon your blog randomly - as I did a google search for "I hate my wedding" !!
It's just this never ending decision making process about crap that in the end, isn't even important.
I am looking forward to being married but not at all to the wedding itself. And wearing a dress and parading myself around doesn't make it any better. But drinking might. Lots, and lots, of drinking.
I got married in June, and by a month before the wedding I was literally having panic attacks daily and not eating. It was a nightmare.
Nothing had gone wrong, I was still madly in love with my (now) husband, but all the little minutia drove me over the edge. (I found that klonopin helped immensely. *grin*)
I love my wedding, and I'm not sorry we did it - but I really wish there had been someone else to do all the actual planning.
Best of luck!
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